Negative thinking can take many forms, some of them subtle. To stay focused on your goals and priorities and not give up, you must get rid of all forms of negative thinking. Are you ready for that? It’s a big job, but nothing in the world is truly more worthwhile. Here are some ways that negative thinking can manifest:
1. Making decisions based on your age, race, or sex. This type of thinking will only limit you unnecessarily.
• “There are hardly any African-American airline pilots out there. I might as well not try to go into that field.”
• “Women always hit a glass ceiling in business, so why set myself up for failure?”
• “I’m an old dog that can’t learn new tricks.”
2. Talking about your problems a lot. Sure, everyone needs a “bitch session” to let it all out once in a while, but if you find yourself talking continually about your problems instead of your successes, you need to change your mindset. You are bringing yourself, and others, down. If you can’t think of something positive to say, don’t say anything at all.
3. Dwelling on your dysfunctional family. C’mon, folks. Have you ever seen a functional family? I haven’t. Nobody is perfect out there, and having issues in your family is pretty common. Just like endlessly dwelling on your own problems, you need to stop focusing on your family’s shortcomings and become a forward, not backward, thinking person.
4. Hanging around with negative-thinking people. Even though they don’t really mean us harm, sometimes our family members and friends can be downers. Some people just don’t believe in themselves, and as a result they can’t believe in you either. Just as a recovering alcoholic has to stop hanging around with his old drinking buddies, you have to limit your exposure to your negative-thinking associates.
View your success as a “when,” not an “if.” Remember, in the mogul mindset, failure is not an option. So when you talk about your life, always say “When I am a millionaire…” instead of “If I ever become a millionaire…” Also, as a way to transition to this mindset, try this exercise:
Write down all the negative thoughts, fears, and worst-case-scenarios that stand in the way of your “if” becoming a “when.” Now just tear that paper to shreds. Destroy these blocks to your success. Next, write down what will happen when you succeed. How will your life change? What will be different? Keep that list close to you so that you can notice when those things begin to come true. This way you’ll see your “if” turn into a “when” right before your eyes.