Let’s do an exercise. I want you to grab a pen and paper and write down what success would feel like to you. I’m talking about emotions here. I want you to use the most descriptive adjectives you can think of. Would it feel vindicating, powerful, easygoing, thrilling, or invigorating? Would it feel relaxing, enlightening, peaceful, or red hot? We are doing this to understand that when we think of success, it is not the material trappings of success that we truly want. What we want is the positive emotions that those material trappings can give us.
Now, play the movie of your success in your mind. What happens in that movie? Are you stepping out of a shiny limousine into a cheering crowd? Are you handing out free meals at a shelter for the needy? Are you sending your two children off to school with kisses, hugs, and homemade lunches? Everyone’s vision of success is different, but the one thing they all have in common is the positive feelings associated with success. These positive feelings all result in happiness and a sense of fulfillment. So go ahead and play that movie of your success over and over. Write it down in a paragraph or two. Keep it handy, because those images in your mind, and the feelings associated with them, are going to carry you through the tough times ahead.